Tuesday, May 26, 2015

A Mother's Day sermon

One of my hats is a lay preacher for the Methodist Church here in Manawatu. The following is a sermon I preached at Ashhurst on Mother's Day. The readings referred to are Acts 10: 44-48; John 15: 9-17; and 1 John 5: 1-6.



These first two readings are beautiful and generous, and are at the heart of Easter and the joy of an Easter people. The reading from Acts tells of the Gentiles receiving the holy spirit - representing the reconciliation of God and non-Jews. The reading from John recounts Jesus calling the disciples friends not servants, emphasizing that God’s love in not hierarchical. Both the passages describe incredibly powerful moments in the relationship between Christ and his followers. And at these points the disciples had a couple of choices – they could see this as the setting them aside in an exclusive club or they could see it as both a generous invitation and command to go and do likewise. Most Christians know that the second view is the more Christ-like.

But there’s a third New Testament reading today which made me uneasy because of its focus on ‘the world’. There are Various New Testament passages that rail against ‘the world’.  A earlier section of Johns’ letter makes it clear why victory over the world is so important:
Don't love the world or anything that belongs to the world. If you love the world, you cannot love the Father. Our foolish pride comes from this world, and so do our selfish desires and our desire to have everything that we see. 1 John 2: 15-16

This idea of the world being evil has played out in the media recently. Those of you who watch Campbell Live will have seen the stories it has been running on the Gloriavale community on the West Coast. For those who haven’t, Gloriavale is a not closed but very secluded community of about 500 people. It is run like the early church, with all belongings held in common. People don’t go out to work, instead they live and work in the community, usually in farms, or doing cooking and cleaning for the community, caring for children. They take a very literal approach to the Bible. Women are not able to be leaders, birth control is forbidden. They have their own school and higher education is not encouraged. On entering, members are required to sign over all their possessions and earnings to the community.

The stories about Gloriavale have covered people who have recently left the community, an act which leaves them disowned by their families, and with no resources and very frightened. Frightened because they have been told all their lives that the outside world is ‘evil’. Further stories about Gloriavale have explored issues such as bullying, financial exploitation, sexual and physical abuse, particularly of children and young people. It’s been very painful to watch.

The low point was a scene where a young woman who’d left, Julia, tried to visit Gloriavale in order to contact friends and family. Before she can get there she is stopped by her father, who tells her: ‘‘I don’t want to see you unless you want my God. That’s the only thing we have in common.” And: “the only reason I’d love you, is to see your soul saved. I don’t love you for any other reason.”
I don’t believe this is a Christian community. I don’t believe a man who can say that to his daughter knows anything about love. And on Mother’s Day, a day that celebrates the love and sacrifice of parents for their children, this feels particularly foul.

But think again about that passage from John’s letter about the world and we can see where this attitude might come from. And let us acknowledge that there are passages in the Bible that lend themselves to that belief. Jews, Christians, and Moslems all have to recognize that their holy books contain passages that can easily be interpreted as teaching prejudice and violence, and in fact reading them in any other way is quite difficult. And in Gloriavale, bible verses about separating from the world are the justification. As I say, passages about the world make me feel uneasy. Because this same world that is so evil is the same world that God so loved that he gave his only Son to it. It’s the world that God created, that Jesus commanded us to go out and serve. When I read these passages I want to shake the writers and say “what do you mean when you write ‘the world’? Don’t you really mean ‘sin’ or ‘selfishness’? If so, just stop using ‘the world’ as a convenient shorthand!”

Because to me, it’s a call to the urge to see ourselves as an exclusive club. Gloriavale is an example of taking the exclusive approach to extremes and the result is a sick society. They do no good to the outside world, and they do no good to themselves. Abuse grows and is justified as keeping people in line. Free thought is stifled as being likely to give rise to dissent. Their power corrupts the leadership. Love, the command of Jesus for us to love one another takes a very secondary place to the need to control. Julia’s father, faced with two conflicting Biblical commands – ‘love one another’ and ‘shun the world’ has chosen the cruelest.
The Gloriavale community claims that they do not ‘interpret’ the Bible – they take it literally. But everyone interprets the Bible in their own way – even the decision to take it at face value is an interpretation. And when there is a conflict between texts – what do you do? John Wesley used four sources when coming to theological conclusions – scripture; traditions of the Church; personal experience; and reason. I suspect Julia’s father did so as well – but the traditions of the church and reason were both warped by his experience in Gloriavale and drowned out the calls to love coming both from scripture, and the natural love of a father for a daughter.

Love one another is rightly recognized as one of Jesus’ most important commands, if not the most important, and all the rest of scripture should be read through that lens. Love is acceptance and a desire for the best for the person loved. And that also means allowing them to be free, as the mother in the poem I read earlier* knew. Love requires thought and interpretation. Many of the mothers I know have told me that they have had to adjust their parenting style for their different children. What worked with one child didn’t with the next, or one child posed completely different issues to the other. Love required them to take into account ‘scripture’ (parenting books?), tradition, personal experience, and reason.


And thinking of love in scripture sends us back to Acts – the generous gift of the Holy Spirit to the Gentiles, those previously apart. And to John. Love is trust, love is friendship, love is service. Amen.

*Poem: A wish for my children, by Evangeline Paterson

On this doorstep I stand
year after year
and watch you leaving

and thing: May you not
skin your knees. May you
not catch your fingers
in car doors. May
your hearts not break. 

May tide and weather
wait for your coming

and may you grow strong
to break
all webs of my weaving. 


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